What Makes It Bullying?

1. It is intentional The person doing the bullying is deliberately trying to hurt, embarrass, or control someone else. It is not an accident or a misunderstanding.
2. It happens repeatedly Bullying is a pattern of behavior that occurs over time, not just a single conflict or disagreement between peers.
3. There is a power imbalance The person bullying has some advantage, whether physical size, social status, access to embarrassing information, or technological skill, that makes it difficult for the target to defend themselves.

Types of Bullying

How to Respond Safely

1. Tell a trusted adult Reporting bullying to a parent, teacher, school counselor, or other trusted adult is not tattling. Reporting means asking for help to stop someone from being harmed. Identify at least three adults you could talk to if bullying happens.
2. Stay calm and protect yourself emotionally People who bully often want a reaction. While your feelings are completely valid, practicing staying outwardly calm, using a neutral tone, and removing yourself from the situation can reduce the bully's motivation to continue. Process your real feelings later in a safe space.
3. Remove yourself when possible When it is safe to do so, walk away or take a different route to avoid the person bullying you. This is not giving in; it is a strategic choice to keep yourself safe while you work on a longer-term solution.
4. Use assertive body language Research shows that confident body language, such as standing tall, making brief eye contact, and speaking in a steady voice, can deter bullying behavior. Practice these skills so they feel more natural when you need them.
5. Save evidence of cyberbullying If bullying occurs online, save screenshots and do not delete messages. This evidence can be important when reporting to adults or school officials. Most platforms also have reporting and blocking features that can help.

Remember

• Bullying is never your fault No one deserves to be bullied. The responsibility lies entirely with the person choosing to engage in bullying behavior.
• You are not alone Many young people experience bullying. Reaching out for support is a sign of strength, and there are people who want to help.
• Being a bystander matters If you see someone being bullied, you can help by supporting the person being targeted, refusing to participate, and reporting what you saw to an adult. Research shows that bystander intervention is one of the most effective ways to stop bullying.